Being a happy mom who balances everything from house chores, and family needs, to her own passions, can be a difficult task.
Moms usually tend to put everyone else’s needs before theirs and can find themselves in a rabbit hole of constant problem-solving and personal neglect.
This means that most moms do not devote enough time to themselves and to their needs.
In the long run, they may feel neglected and depressed, because we are more than just mothers.
We are women with needs, hobbies, interests, and life outside of our family.
Even though we love being devoted to our children and husbands, it can all be overwhelming when we add a 9 to 5 job, practices, school, and cooking.
Here are some simple tips on how to be a happy mom your kids will always remember.
1. Take Some ‘Me Time’ And Relax
‘Me time‘ is important because we need some space and a few minutes to unwind.
Take some time to read a favorite book while your kids are sleeping or to drink your morning coffee before waking everybody up.
This will give you time to set the tone for the day and be alone with your own thoughts.
I usually refer to this as ‘charging my batteries‘ but it is usually a form of recharge and gathering energy for the day.
2. Do Not Add Unnecessary Tasks
Adding unnecessary tasks that are not crucial for a day with your kids will only make you feel anxious and stressed out.
Try to keep these tasks for days that are less busy or when you have help.
For example, going shopping for a dress on a day when you have everything planned out may be overwhelming, so it can be postponed.
We sometimes add a lot of tasks to our schedules and realize that most of them are not necessary for the time being.
3. Stay Organized
In all the chaos that we go through on a daily basis, it is nice to keep a schedule of every task and every chore we need to do.
Staying organized is pivotal for being a happy mother because you will never forget important events and you will plan every day according to them.
Also, you will find a great sense of calmness when you have everything sorted out! Trust me, I always love that feeling of accomplishment at the end of the day.
4. Sacrifice Things That Are Not Important
When we become mothers, it is always expected to forget our previous lives and to devote ourselves to a new life as mothers.
Sure, this is mostly true, but you should never sacrifice things that are important to you, such as time with your friends, alone time, and your hobbies.
However, you should sacrifice things or rituals you do not need, such as watching a show you used to watch each night or talking to your friend for over an hour on the phone during bath time.
Do not exclude things that make you happy, but there are things we sometimes do out of habit, and they are not really stuff that we need to be happier.
5. Find Fellow Mom Friends
If you feel lonely or if your friends are not moms yet, it can be quite difficult to connect to people who do not share similar experiences with you.
Finding fellow mom friends can be a great way to connect to others who share the same day-to-day life as you, and who are not going to judge you if you make mistakes or complain.
We are in this together, so it is nice to have someone who understands and supports you.
These friendships usually remain strong for a long time and you may find your next best friend among them.
6. Hire A Babysitter When Needed
Being busy all the time will not leave room for your own adventures and needs.
If you plan on going out with your husband, or a family member, and you simply need to spend time away from all the commotion, it is wise to hire a babysitter for a day.
Ask fellow moms for recommendations and try to enjoy your day without worry.
This will make you much happier and more ready to be there for your kids once you return.
7. Ask Family For Help
Family can be of great help when you need to get things done without your kids.
If you have any family members who are willing to step in and babysit for a day, you are a lucky one!
This will make you feel safe about leaving them with their family and you can enjoy your free time as you like.
8. Do Not Forget About Your Hobbies
Never forget about what makes you happy and what makes you feel alive.
Our hobbies are what defines us, and losing them means losing parts of ourselves.
Your partner, family members, or a babysitter can watch your children while you do what you love.
Do not regret it or feel selfish while doing it – it is something all mothers deserve.
9. Move On From Bad Parts Of Your Day
When you put your kids to bed, try to remember all the positive things that happened during the day.
Do not remind yourself of the failures or bad situations because they will not make you happy.
Learn from them, and move on! You are more than your mistakes.
10. Exercise
Staying active and fit will not only improve your health and physique but also make you much happier and satisfied.
We are always much happier when we look and feel good, so do not disregard your activities.
Go for a walk every day, join a yoga class, or go running. These will make you much more satisfied with your routines.
11. Keep A Diary Or Talk To A Friend
Happy moms do not bottle up their emotions! They find a place where they can rant and unload everything that bothers them.
Keep a diary at night where you can say everything that makes you feel bad. Try to always include positive things and gratitude because you want to end it on a positive note.
If you are not someone who likes diaries, you can text your friend or a family member who will not judge you.