The man who preys on children and minors was arrested, but there are so many other men who are doing the same things. This story will take you back to harsh reality. People can be so evil and children are the ones who suffer the most.
It’s hard to hear these stories, but we have to know that these things are happening every day. There are so many victims and so many criminals that are still unknown to us.
It’s important to tell these stories because we might inspire the victims to speak up.
The Man Who Preys – Epifanio Adolfo Jimenez
The man who preys in this story is called Epifanio Adolfo Jimenez. He is 43 years old and he is from Texas. He used the nickname “Harley” to set up a dating profile on multiple dating platforms.
He targeted single moms because his main goal were the children. He wanted to get close to single moms so they would allow him to spend time with their kids.
One of the victims finally spoke. In 2022, a 17-year-old girl reported him because he raped her when she was 13 years old.
She was struggling with trauma, and after talking to her high school counselors she decided to report him. He was arrested and at first, he denied everything, but eventually came forward with the sad truth.
He revealed that he targeted single moms because he wanted to connect with their kids.
The worst thing in this story is that we don’t know how many victims are there. When it comes to sexual assault, many people have difficulties to admit what happened to them.
When children are the victims, it’s very hard to get them to speak up about the sexual abuse they’ve experienced. He probably molested more kids, but we don’t know anything about that.
Luckily, he is arrested. At least he won’t hurt other kids for now. He will get a piece of justice. Sexual assault of a child is truly a despicable act.
Victims Are Silent
This type of story is not easy to process, especially if you’re a parent, but it’s important to face the reality.
This story should also motivate other victims to report sexual abuse and sexual assault. But, as I’ve mentioned, victims are usually silent.
It’s very hard to determine why that happens, but many experts claim that the victims feel guilty and ashamed. They’re worried that admitting what happened will ruin their life.
In some cases, they’re trying to protect someone. There are many reasons for hiding the truth, but it’s important to know that many victims do it.
That’s why it’s hard to get them to talk. That’s why people have to be gentle with them. We have to show them that we understand. We have to show them that we won’t judge. Also, we have to convince them that we will help them to find protection and justice.
They need someone to rely on. They’ve lost all their confidence and they want to move on. However, it’s hard to move one when something is haunting you. It’s hard to move on when your trauma is always with you.
This is even more problematic for the children. Children are still growing and developing. They’re still deciding about their life.
When someone does something awful to them, it can ruin their life. It can change them and it can turn them into bad people if they don’t get people.
Even if they get some help, it’s still hard to know how everything will turn out. That’s why it’s so tragic when we hear that someone sexually assaulted a child. That’s why it is so devastating.
But, the real question is – how do we motivate the victims to speak and work on healing?
Well, first of all, we have to be open-minded and approachable. Kids will tell these things if they feel safe and relaxed. It’s also important to explore everything that’s unusual.
We can’t ignore some signs and we have to be cautious. Next, when we know that something happened, but the child refuses to speak about it, we have to find a way to connect with them.
Some professionals who aren’t close to the child lie about their experiences to get closer to the child. Even though it seems wrong, sometimes it helps to get the truth out.
If we’re not professionals like police or therapists, we should be patient and gentle. We can’t force them to tell us something. We have to give them some time to process everything, but we have to tell them that we understand and that we want to help.
It’s essential to tell them that they’re not guilty of anything that happened. In most cases, kids are confused, and they think that it’s their fault.
Also, we have to know that it’s possible that they’re being threatened and blackmailed. We have to protect them and we have to keep them safe.
This way, it’s possible that we’ll help them to open up about this. Talking about it or reporting is not just about arresting the one who did it. The more important thing is helping the poor child. We don’t know what consequences could happen if we don’t take this seriously.
Every child responds differently, and we have to be flexible. We have to earn their trust and we have to seek justice.
A victim can still have a good life. It’s impossible to forget the abuse that happened, but it’s possible to fill life with positive things.
It’s possible to focus on something better. We can’t ignore them and we must do something that will help them to fight against their trauma and their pain.
Just because someone didn’t survive the same thing doesn’t mean they can’t help. Every person can be helpful and every person can make a change.
The victims need us to stand by their side. They need us to understand and they need us to make them feel safe.
There are so many children who will stay silent. They will make it look like nothing happened. For that reason, we always have to be gentle with them even if we don’t know if something happens. Children need love and understanding to heal and grow.
Fears Of A Single Mom
The story about Henry who targeted single moms to get closer to the kids is not the only case where the abuser used single moms to molest children.
It happens very often, and sometimes it lasts for years. Children are afraid that their mother won’t believe them.
They’re afraid that the abuser will hurt the mother too. They’re simply confused that the abuse happened, and it’s easier to be silent.
There are so many stories where the abuser was part of the family for years. He was a stepfather to the children but the only thing that he did was abuse them.
Single moms who go through this are often damaged for life. They feel like they’ve betrayed their children. They can’t believe that they didn’t notice the signs. They can’t believe that this happened.
They feel angry and sad at the same time. They feel like they’re the enemy too. This feeling is normal. After all, a mother wants to protect her kids. When she’s the one who meets them with the abuser, it’s devastating.
But, at the end of the day, a mother has to snap out of it and help her child. She couldn’t know that her partner would do this. Even if she noticed some weird things, maybe she thought that he cared about her children.
The past can’t be changed, and even if a child feels mad and betrayed, a mother still has to be there. It’s important that a mother shows her child that she believes in everything that happened.
She has to be supportive, understanding, and stable. She has to be strong in those moments. She has to be the backbone of her child’s life.
Every child needs a different approach, and every mother should respect her child’s needs. She has to adjust to some situations and she has to do everything for the sake of her little one.
But, when she does everything she’s supposed to do in this situation, what about her? What about her thoughts and struggles?
The child’s pain is much bigger, but when a mother feels broken and when she thinks that she is responsible for bringing that person into their life, she needs to get help too.
Many mothers who experience this won’t ask for help or counseling. They usually focus on their kids, and that’s understandable.
However, a mother has to find a way to deal with all this. She has to find a way to forgive herself because she has to help her child to move on. She has to be mentally strong.
Her mental health and strength are crucial in these sensitive moments. She has to face her fears and failures, and she has to move on.
Another thing these moms have to know is that the abusers are very manipulative and smart. It’s very hard to notice that something is wrong. They don’t seem like they could assault anyone.
They’re very intelligent and resourceful. Therefore, it’s almost impossible to sense something. Feeling guilty and responsible won’t help much.
The moms need to find a way to help their children heal. They also have to understand that these things can happen to anyone. Abusers are much smarter than we think.
Of course, it can’t hurt to be more careful. It’s also better to wait for some time before finding another partner. The child needs all the attention now.
Moms Who Didn’t Protect Their Children
Usually, moms are devastated when they find out that their partner is abusing their children. I’ve explained that it happened and it’s important to focus on the future for the sake of the child.
Most moms are angry, and some of them get violent because they want to hurt the person who did that to their kid. There are many reactions, but we also have to talk about some tragic and devastating outcomes.
There are many children who were abused and who are still being abused by someone, and their mothers are aware of it. Some kids are abused by their fathers, stepfathers, or siblings. Some of them are even abused by their mother.
The fact that the mother knows that someone is doing something to her child and she does nothing is also abuse.
There are many deranged people, but what about those women who seem normal? What about those women who have nice jobs and nice families?
How is it possible that they’re allowing the abuse to happen? Well, there are many answers.
Sometimes they’re afraid that things will be worse if they do something to protect the child. Sometimes they’re the victims too, and they don’t dare to do something.
It may sound harsh, but a mother should do everything in her power to save her child. She can’t give up and she can’t accept defeat in this situation.
Sometimes, a mother is so obsessed with her partner that she doesn’t care about her children. She feels bad, and she even tries to do something to prevent it, but at the end of the day, she doesn’t want to lose her partner.
She doesn’t want him to leave, and she will put up with everything. There is definitely something wrong with these women because a normal person won’t sacrifice her child just to be in a relationship. There are no excuses.
In many situations, the mother doesn’t believe that it’s happening. When the abuser is very manipulative and if the child lied before, many moms will dismiss their words.
Of course, in rare situations, some children do lie about these things. But, we have to remember that this happens in rare situations only.
A responsible mother who wants good for her kids and herself will consider all options. The first thing that she should do is protect her child. That’s her job and everything else she does is wrong.
Sometimes, a child is being abused by family members. Many families that live in rural areas think that this is fine. They even encourage kids to be silent about it.
But, even some high-class families believe that it’s better to hide these things. They don’t want to ruin their reputation. They don’t want to feel ashamed. So, they ignore these things and live their life like nothing is happening
The last situation I want to mention is a child being molested by a sibling. So many mothers love their children, but it seems like their judgment is impaired sometimes.
Many molested children were abused by their siblings, and the mother didn’t do anything because she wanted to protect the other child. I can understand that she can’t stop loving that child.
I can understand that she is broken and confused. But, I can’t understand how she’s willing to sacrifice one child to protect another one.
After all, children will grow up one day. One day, it will be too late to do something and it will be too late to ask certain questions.
There are many other scenarios, but the point is that sometimes a mother is the enemy too. We have to understand that awful things are happening all the time. We have to understand that some things don’t have an explanation. We just have to accept the harsh truth.
How To Help The Victims?
When it comes to helping the victims, let’s talk about a different approach. After the initial events, reports, trials, or therapy sessions it’s still important to help the victims.
As I’ve mentioned when the abuse happens and we learn about it, the situation will be confusing and sensitive. Sometimes talking will help, and sometimes it won’t.
Sometimes being there will help, but sometimes it will make things worse. Every victim had a process of dealing with this.
But, when those major things pass, we still have to do something to help these children.
The most important thing is accepting them and realizing that they’re still human beings with thoughts and emotions.
Even if they feel like the abuse is the most significant thing in their life, we have to show them that it isn’t. We have to show them that being a victim doesn’t define them.
Being understanding and supportive is good, but we should treat them like we treat others. They need to feel welcomed and accepted after everything.
They have to understand that life goes on. The abuse they’ve experienced will change them and it’s something that they shouldn’t forget about.
Also, we have to give them a lot of support because they can become stronger than ever. They deserve to be acknowledged in other ways too.
It’s also important to understand that these children will probably have complicated relationships with everyone. They’ve been through a lot, and they don’t feel safe.
They’re doubtful and insecure. So, we shouldn’t hold it against them. We shouldn’t expect special treatment.
They need acceptance and they need to talk about other things too, but it’s still important to give them some space. It’s important for them to take it easy.
They need to feel safe. So, if we want to help them we have to create a safe environment. We have to make sure that they feel protected.
Some people believe in a different approach, and sometimes it’s okay if the child is a complex person. But, we have to remember that these children will grow up.
We have to make sure that this traumatic experience doesn’t become something that changes them. They can still have good lives and they can become successful and optimistic.
It would be great if we could protect the kids from everything and everyone. But, we can’t. This story is proof that sometimes the most important people in our lives can’t save us.
We can still help the kids. We can listen to them and guide them. We can make sure that they have a support system. Recovery is always possible.
The man who preys on the children is a despicable human being. Every man who preys, including “Harley” from this story deserves to be punished.
I think that every person wishes that the punishment for child abusers is worse. There are so many registered sex offenders around us, and many of them abused children.
We live near them, and our children are around them too. That’s why it’s important to protect our kids at all costs.
There are so many disturbing stories about child abuse, and there are so many more of them but we’re not aware of that. There are so many untold stories and tragic things that happen every day.
We have to work on making a change. Even a small change can help. Every child matters. We can’t save the world and we can’t save every child, but we can still make a difference.
Being careful and alert is always a good thing. Abuse can happen to every person and it’s always better to be safe than sorry. Dating apps can be fun and useful, but they can be dangerous too.
Women and children are always more affected by the abuse, and they deserve to feel safe.
Hi all, I am Sidney, an accountant, a hobbyist photographer, and a mother to two sweet girls who are my motivation. I love sharing the tips and tricks I gained all these years I’ve been a mother. I hope it will help you!