Confidence is important for all of us, not just for our children. When you figure out how powerful confidence is, it will be easier to find ways to grow it.
Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered – just like any other skill.
Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better. – Barrie Davenport
Confidence Is A Force
Before I give you some tips and tricks on how to raise children’s confidence, let’s talk about it first.
If you want to see results, you have to be aware of why confidence matters.
When a person is confident, anything is possible. When someone believes in their strength and capability, miracles can happen.
If your child becomes a confident individual, everything will be accessible to them.
A confident child is ready to fight for their dreams.
A confident child is ready to stand up for themselves.
A confident child is good with people and their life is much simpler.
But, most importantly, a confident child has faith and self-love in their heart and mind.
Confident people get whatever they want and that’s why you should raise a confident child.
The next few factors are essential for raising confident children.
1. Unconditional Love
I know that you love your child no matter what they do, but it’s important to express that love.
You have to speak about your love and you have to show your love.
When a child feels loved, it’s much easier to be confident and bold.
Don’t judge your child under any circumstances. Don’t point out their mistakes too much, and try to be an inspiration in every moment.
Positive critics are good, but don’t be too critical. Your child needs your love to grow.
Your child needs to feel safe and understood in every moment.
This way, it’s easy to grow their confidence. It’s easy to show them the right path in life.
Life is hard and complicated. Your child will have a hard time, so don’t be a person that gives them a hard time.
Love is a force and enough love will raise their levels of self-love. Self-love will definitely build their confidence.
2. A Good Example
If you’re insecure, it will be a challenge to build your child’s confidence, but it’s not impossible.
First of all, even if you’re not confident at all, try to pretend that you are in front of your child.
It’s important to be a good role model. It’s important to show your child that loving yourself matters in every moment.
Of course, the best thing to do would be to work on your confidence. It’s never too late to grow it.
Confidence will help you to be happier. Confidence will help you to be a better parent.
Your child has better chances at everything if you’re a confident individual too.
Additionally, set a good example in other things as well.
Teach your child some manners. Teach your child to take care of their hygiene and body.
Inspire them to learn new things and educate themselves. Teach them that it’s important to unleash their potential.
When you know that your child is truly making an effort to become a decent human being, it’s much easier to work on their confidence.
Loving yourself matters in every situation, but it’s important to avoid false confidence that’s not justified in some situations.
3. Spontaneity and Courage
If you want to raise a confident child, you have to be bold too. You have to be brave enough to allow your child to try new things.
You have to be spontaneous and energetic. This attitude will help your child to find their passion.
Your positive nature will help your kid find their life’s calling and stability.
If you’re scared and you always play it safe, your child will have that attitude too.
They will think that risks are never welcome. They will never get out of their comfort zone.
So, be fearless and adventurous if you want your child to be confident. Shows them different life directions and don’t be afraid if you make mistakes.
Be independent if you want to teach your kid to be independent too.
Be brave if you want your child to be ready for every challenge in life.
It’s hard to be like this when you’re a parent, even if this is your nature.
You’re always scared for your child’s well-being and some safe bubble seems like the best option.
But, your child needs to see that there is more to life. Your child needs to see and feel so many things in order to understand how the world works.
4. Support
Your child will have different interests and you won’t agree on everything.
It’s hard to accept some things you don’t like at all, but you have to be reasonable and supportive.
Besides unconditional love, your child needs your unconditional support too.
Allow your kid to dream big. Don’t crush their dreams and aspirations.
If something is truly impossible, find a gentle way to tell them that.
Support your child’s choices and be there to catch them if they fall.
Kids will make mistakes and you can’t prevent that. Even if you can – don’t do it.
We all learn from mistakes, and you have to let your child see the reality sometimes.
You also have to teach them to get up when they fall. They also need this type of support. You have to tell them that failing happens to everyone and that they’re still worthy.
Be their biggest fan and follow them no matter what. Have faith in your kid, and you will raise a confident person.
5. Patience
One of the most important things for building confidence is patience.
Even if you want to work on your confidence, you have to learn how to be patient first.
You have to teach your child to be patient and devoted. Some things will happen overnight, but most of them require time and energy.
They will gain confidence when they achieve something. They will be confident when they start to feel capable and important.
If you want them to feel like this, you have to allow them to actually do something praiseworthy.
In the meantime, the child still needs love, support, and cheering. But, it’s important for kids to have goals.
Accomplishing goals is hard for everyone, and without enough patience, nothing good will happen.
So, teach your kid to be patient and you will teach them to be confident too.
Patience will help them to achieve their goals. Patience will make them wise and logical.
When they learn the power of hard work and patience, it will be simple to feel confident.
Keep in mind that you should also be patient. Not just to set a good example. You need to be patient because it takes time to see the results of good parenting.
Don’t push your kid too hard. Don’t be annoying. Don’t be demanding.
Go with the flow because you have to show that you’re strong enough to guide and protect.
You can’t expect your child to be patient and reasonable if you’re acting completely different.
Dealing With An Insecure Child
If your child is very insecure and it seems like nothing is working, it’s important to take it easy.
Don’t force your kid to do something they don’t want to do.
In this situation, it’s important to talk a lot with your child. You have to know their dreams, passions, and aspirations.
Talking will help you to give them something they want.
Talking will help you to give them something that will make them feel confident and happy at least for a little while.
It’s also important to understand their feelings. Just because you don’t share the same opinions, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try and understand their perspective.
Don’t give up on them no matter what. One day, you will see some progress if you stay persistent.
Some people are born this way and sometimes there isn’t much you can do.
But, be open-minded and learn to communicate well and everything will be okay. Maybe your kid won’t be very confident, but your love and support are still crucial. You can’t give up.
Forcing things is not a solution, and building confidence is a long-term process that requires a lot of hard work.
Conclusion
Raising confident kids is a challenge nowadays because people are prone to comparing everyone and everything.
Society is different than before, and it can be difficult to accept the fact that our kids are often insecure.
Try to be the best version of yourself and be a present parent. Be interested in your child’s life and talk to them a lot.
If you’re involved in their life and if they can tell you everything, it will be easy to find a way to boost their confidence.
Successful people often exude confidence – it’s obvious that they believe in themselves and what they’re doing.
It isn’t their success that makes them confident, however. The confidence was there first. – Travis Bradberry
Hi all, I am Sidney, an accountant, a hobbyist photographer, and a mother to two sweet girls who are my motivation. I love sharing the tips and tricks I gained all these years I’ve been a mother. I hope it will help you!