A good, healthy mother-child bond is important for the development of a child’s personality.
The relationship between mother and child begins long before the day of birth.
Because in 40 weeks of pregnancy, the two grow together, so to speak.
That’s what makes the connection so special.
The bond between mother and child begins on the day of birth.
The key word here is ‘bond’.
The close physical contact, the mother’s scent, the beating of her heart, the warmth of her body – everything is already familiar to the newborn from the womb, and he feels secure.
He intuitively knows who his mother is.
The first few weeks of a baby’s life are therefore the cornerstone of a good mother-child bond.
Although physical contact, love and closeness remain an important part of a good mother-child bond as the child grows, they are not the only vector.
Rather, it’s an interplay of love, respect, recognition, but also, for example, rules that strengthen and grow the bond between mother and child, but also between father and child.
But what are the obvious signs of a good mother-child bond?
1. The child doesn’t hide his feelings from his mother
If the mother-child bond is good, children can (mostly) be at home as they are.
Part of this is letting them express their emotions without fearing Mom’s (and Dad’s) reaction.
So kids can laugh, cry, scream or get mad at home, because when they feel comfortable and safe, they let it all out.
As exhausting as outbursts of rage, flying stuffed toys or punching the bed can be, it also shows that your child really does feel safe with you.
He can let out everything that’s on his heart.
A wide variety of feelings is therefore a sign of a good mother-child bond.
2. The child talks about his problems
It’s a sign of a very good mother-child relationship if your child turns to you with problems and worries.
Even when things are really bad.
Asking you for advice shows that he trusts you.
That he’s not afraid to admit his mistakes, and that he expects real help from you.
When children reach puberty, they often cut themselves off from their parents.
In this phase of life, friends very often take center stage and become more of a confidant to them than their own parents.
But this doesn’t mean that the maternal bond is broken.
As a parent, however, you can always let your child know that you’re always there if he or she has problems.
3. Each of you is accustomed to apologizing.
No human being is infallible.
Being able to admit mistakes and apologize for them is part of life.
Children need to learn this.
So the best thing to do is to set a good example and apologize to them if something hasn’t gone according to plan, or if you’ve lost your patience.
Mutual respect for each other’s feelings and opinions is a sign of a good mother-child relationship.
4. You’re the best for your child
Mom is often unbeatable, especially at a young age.
Whatever your child needs or wants, the first point of contact will very often be you.
Even beyond infancy, children very often address their wishes to their mother.
As tiring as it may be to have your child call you when Daddy is sitting right next to him, it shows that your child is bonding with you.
He simply trusts you.
5. You’re not your child’s best friend
Although TV shows show us that it can work very well when mother and child are best friends, in real life this is not desirable.
Children really don’t need to know everything about their parents, because they can’t handle everything.
On the contrary, they want and need to be guided by their parents.
In return, parents don’t need to know everything about their children.
The child needs to develop into an independent person, be able to pursue his or her wishes and dreams, and have confidence in his or her abilities – all in the safe environment provided by his or her parents.
If mother and child are able to confide in each other, but it’s not a problem for either party not to know something because they trust each other, then that’s also proof of a good mother-child bond.
Conclusion
The mother-child bond is extremely important for a child’s development.
But don’t panic if you feel your child is distancing himself.
It’s normal, especially in adolescence, for children to try to stand on their own two feet.
But as long as your child confides in you about his problems, and as long as you manage to control your emotions in front of him, you can be sure that your bond is solid.