Being a mom isn’t always fun.
In fact, if you don’t have children, when you look at a mother’s behavior or life, you probably think she must be a real pain in the ass!
She never goes out, she doesn’t laugh much and she spends her time jogging.
Even children often find their mother boring!
You never play with us!
You’re always yelling at us…
Yes, moms’ lives aren’t always happy, and that’s reflected in their behavior.
But have you ever wondered why?
Why aren’t moms fun?
When you look at them, you see women who let themselves go, who run around all day and bitch about everything and anything.
And it’s true…
It’s what they do!
Moms spend all their time stressed, tired and unhappy.
As a mom myself, I can guarantee you that I’m not funny.
At least, not intentionally!
But do you know why?
Literally, the weight of my family rests on me.
And there are a lot of moms in the same situation.
Whether the mother works or not doesn’t make much difference.
In fact, the family’s mental load is the same.
Moms look after their children first.
The more they have, the more work they have to do.
From diaper changes to meals to homework.
But that’s not all: they also have to entertain and educate their children.
So, as soon as they have a minute to spare, they sit down with their children to teach them to draw, play cards or cross the street safely.
When you’re a mom, your work never stops.
If your child goes to school, you also have to help them with their homework, learn their lessons and prepare their things for the next morning.
In short, if I started listing all the things I have to do for my three children, you’d wonder if I’m sleeping.
But the worst part is that this is only one aspect of being a mom.
After that, you have to cook for everyone, do the laundry and iron it so that everyone has clean underpants to wear.
Meals have to be healthy, balanced and regular.
And, of course, there are the obligations of the house.
You have to tidy up, clean up, etc.
Finally, you also have to play your part as a loving partner.
Your darling also needs your attention.
In short, all day long, you’re running around doing all your chores and taking care of your family’s needs.
On the other hand, you don’t have a second to yourself.
You can’t remember the last time you took a shower.
You’ve been wearing the same jogging suit for three days, and it’s been months since you’ve visited a beautician or hairdresser.
In short, taking care of yourself is not a priority.
And that includes your mental and physical health too.
Here’s why moms can be boring
They don’t have the strength to pretend.
They don’t have the ability to relax and enjoy a funny moment, because their brains are full.
They’re overheated.
Moms never take a break.
They’re constantly thinking about what they have to do.
Lists of obligations mingle in their heads.
That’s why they have trouble enjoying the present moment.
Anxiety controls their lives.
So yes, even if you say something amusing, they may take a while to react.
It’s not because they don’t like you or find your presence annoying, they just find it hard to switch off.
Take a birthday.
Everyone’s celebrating, having fun, singing and dancing.
Moms think about all the details:
- Does everyone have something to drink?
- Is there food?
- Is any child isolated?
- Is everyone having fun?
They’re also thinking about all the cleaning that’s going to have to be done after the party.
In short, settling down and having fun is difficult for them.
Moms are boring, because they carry the weight of the world on their shoulders.
They never rest.
The family could function without dad.
But without mom, it would be chaos.
In fact, here’s a fear that haunts all moms:
What if something were to happen to me?
Who would take care of the kids, the house, the bills, etc.?
It’s only when you write down all a mom’s obligations that you realize how important and irreplaceable her job is.
So yes, moms are boring.
They don’t take care of themselves.
But instead of criticizing them, why not offer to help?
Reach out!
Gentlemen, offer your sweetheart a spa day.
Ladies, offer to look after the kids so your girlfriend can get some rest.
Organize a house-cleaning day.
Any little action is welcome.
A mother never asks for help.
If she does, she comes across as the naughty one who yells all the time, because she’s exhausted.
Maybe it’s time to recognize the incredible work of all moms.