The Parent-Child Relationship – Growing Together

We’re often too busy with all the chores and obligations to think about the reality of our relationship with our children.

Parent-child relationships should be deep, supportive, and strong. But, it seems so hard to create a good relationship.

Maybe it seems hard because you want it so bad. Maybe you feel insecure.

There is no such thing as a perfect parent so just be a real one. – Sue Atkins.

There Is No Perfect Way To Raise Kids

People are different and it’s normal to have different parenting styles. After all, our children are different too.

Children will make mistakes and you will feel desperate, hurt, and lost many times. You will make mistakes too, and sometimes it will be hard to fix them.

In the end, the most important thing about a parent-child relationship is love, trust, and understanding.

If you’re still struggling to find your parenting style, here are the four most popular ones:

• authoritarian
• authoritative
• neglectful
• permissive

The authoritarian parenting style is all about strict rules, schedules, and plans. This parenting style promotes unbending rules.

Authoritative parenting style is based on flexibility, listening, and understanding. The parent is in charge, but in this style, it’s important how the child feels and what the circumstances are.

A neglectful parenting style sounds bad, but in most cases, it doesn’t happen on purpose.

This parenting style means taking care of a child’s needs, but not connecting with them on a higher level. This parenting style is common among busy, working parents.

A permissive parenting style means allowing the child to do everything they want. Parents who like this style want to be their children’s best friends and supporters.

Each of these styles has some good and bad sides. If I had to pick one style, I would choose an authoritative style.

Being strict and stubborn doesn’t work with every child and it can create a distance in a parent-child relationship.

Neglecting your child’s emotional needs can lead to a self-sufficient child, but it can also lead to a disaster.

Allowing your kid to do everything they want is also not the best decision.

This is why the best parenting style is the flexible one where you handle each situation with understanding.

Now that you know all of this, you can try to figure out your own parenting style that will help you to have a good parent-child relationship.

The Role Of A Parent

Being a parent means being everything. Sometimes your child needs a friend. Sometimes they need some discipline and some rules.

Sometimes you have to spoil them a bit. Sometimes you have to let them take care of themselves.

Every child is different and you will know what to do if you follow your intuition. Here are some things you should do to create a good parent-child relationship.

Love Your Kids and Be Gentle

No matter how old are your kids, they need your unconditional love and care.

Don’t be too obsessed with perfect parenting styles and guidelines.

Express your love for your child, and be a caring parent. This is essential when your child is still a baby.

A baby needs your love and gentleness to feel calm and happy.

Be A Teacher

I know that we have schools, but you also have to be a teacher. Teach your kids some manners.

Teach them some basic things about good behavior. Teach them to be polite, respectful, and grateful.

Guide them and help them when they can’t understand things. This is something that can’t be done in schools.

Being a teacher to your kid is crucial at every stage, especially during the toddler stage.

Share Your Wisdom & Guide Them

You’re responsible for your child. Your child is your mirror and you should try to raise a decent person.

Guide your child through life. Help your child to understand things. Be a friend, a supporter, and a life guru.

Set a good example for them. Be gentle kinds, but don’t spoil your kids. Find some balance in everything.

All this matters the most during the child’s preschool and school chapters. They’re surrounded by other people and influences.

They’re finding their spirit and character. They need you to be stable. They need you to guide them to the right path.

It’s hard to raise a child. You have to be their life tutor, but you also have to set some boundaries. It’s so easy to feel like a failure, but just do your best and everything will be fine.

Be Understanding

We all want success and glory for our kids. We want them to have lots of good friends.

We want them to look nice and to enjoy life. It’s normal to want this, but it’s more important to understand your child.

Sometimes, your child will want something you don’t want to. Maybe they will want to become a celebrity or a dancer, and you want them to be a doctor.

Maybe they don’t like having a lot of people around them, and you’re afraid that they will be lonely. Maybe they don’t care about being rich, because they want to pursue something else in life.

These issues happened during the teenage period and early adulthood.

Be understanding and let them be. Their happiness matters the most, and everything else is just your preference.

When they become mature, you will see the final result. They will also be more understanding, and your relationships will go with the flow.

In Conclusion

Having a good parent-child relationship is possible, but it takes a lot of work and patience.

Keep in mind that there is no recipe for it. You will have to experiment with different parenting styles. You will feel lost and defeated sometimes, but with enough love and hard work, you will get what you want and need.

Sometimes you will have to be strict and sometimes you will have to be flexible.

Sometimes your child will be sad because of your parenting decisions, and sometimes they will be thrilled.

Parenting is a never-ending journey. Even when your children become adults, you will still wonder if you’re doing everything right.